They Are Killing The Roses!

Which words can I describe this video? painful; sad; tyranny, destruction?
Who should we blame about this horrible abuses to our Iraqies women?
Who is responsible about this crime?
Is this the " new Iraq"?

http://www.abc.net.au/news/video/2010/08/28/2996081.htm


Who should we accuse about this humanity's crime? some people would say this is what America's brought for Iraq! But, let us be realistic, why we should always blame the whole world while WE (middle-eastern people) are doing the mistakes by own hands!

I have always a reaction from Arab world & no one can blame me for that, you can see from a side the man controlling the woman & abuses her, practicing the violent on her & from other side he wants from her to satisfy his "dirty desire" & "dirty pleasure"!

Here the government should take an important role to protect women & support women by giving them their rights & with NGO would aid women so they can feel they are protected & not alone in this wild & barbarian world.

Then don't get me wrong I'm not saying that western world is perfect, actually no one is perfect & the west is not a paradise, BUT the difference between west & east, even dogs & cats have rights too in west, & everyone is responsible for his choices, while our women are treated like animals!

At the end I want to say that women aren't weak, women aren't cheap, women is the source of nations...

Dark Tunnel Has No Spot Light!

Excuse me people, I'm going to talk with strong words about women's issues.

I realized that violent is not only coming from men but also coming from women themselves like mother to her daughter , or sister to her sister..but the worse one is that coming from the other gender (male), the problem here in our community especially in those closed-minded societies; that woman is a piece of furniture & if she will ask for her rights they would be judge her as a bad person, that she wouldn't obey to manly societies!!!

For me I can't just obey one's orders without discussion issues, I can't accept injustice but, there are women  accepting that or they are afraid from the men, the culture used to teach us to be afraid from this & that & (female ) should say "Yes", I'm not saying that women should be stubborn & seeking for problems, NO; But the open dialogue is healthy way to solve issues with open-mind, flexible options.

When I talked to women who are just agreed with this "unfair" society; I asked them " Are you contented with this situation, with this ignoring, being second & obey men with bland eyes???"


They answered me with this words " We are living here, in middle-east, we aren't living in west countries", " this is our traditions, & if we don't be like that, the community will scratch our reputation"

I can't change their thinking way, It is like drilling on the stone!

I 'm wondering till when our women will stay thinking like that? till when we will wait the answer for our rights from men? till when we will say "Yes" & we don't have right to say "No"?
Till when we will be smashed?

I don't want to be pessimistic but it will be far away as the sky far away from the earth as long as we have people with close-minded, narrow mentality, violent with different shapes, abuses & now it is going inside the females themselves.

In Christianity is little better than Muslims's community here (in middle-east) but I must admit, we all are living in one circle under society's mercy & odd traditions's laws.

What is in people's mind,it is in their minds & I can't changing it even after 20 years.

My sorrow for our women, my sorrow for our rights here, my sorrow for our future here.
Women will stay second after men for years here & I don't see a spot light in this dark tunnel!

Winter At Doors!

Today is going slowly & weather make me sleepy & little depressed, it is cloudy with autumn smell, this time of year the weather started to change as always, & this changing weather brings to us dust with it, & we should do some really hard housework to welcome winter, though we don't have that cold winter; it is only for 4-5 months & most people likes winter because it is much better than our summer & women likes winter more, because of season's clothes like ( winter's skirts, boots & scarf..ect), & we don't have to use electricity that much like summer, we can wrap into blankets if it gets too cold, but, then winter has its issues with hating water for taking shower because of the power decrease. oil & gas prices get high, while we are the country of oil.


Our daily life ends with sunset, long night's hours, nothing impressed me on T.V. we don't go outside home that often, as I mentioned before in my posts about the reasons like securty & reputation, & past couple weeks I was very busy with this changing weathe, cleaning house, from top to bottom like cleaning fans, lights, windows & walls, autumn cleaning is intense because the dust & this mission like a nightmare for us, it means "working like a dog!" then we usually covered the ground of the house with rugs to warm our rooms, living room or carpet in the kitchen too & feel the sense of winter, & we appreciated rain very much (though streets & walks way will cover with mud) because humidity is very low, I got a new umbrella last year, but really I didn't use it, hopefully this year or somewhere has lots of rain!

What about snow? Well, in north of Iraq; snow is part of north's winter & it is obvious on the mountains, snow in other areas in Iraq; is rare event.

But, in January & February it gets chilly & we can notice a layer of ice, very thin layer, on the roads & streets, however, hopefully this year we will have a snow & will enjoy our winter without problems.

Wake Up Christians!!!

I read about "atheists actually know more than Protestants and Catholics" in U.S.

This article shocked & make me sad, & I don't know if this because of too much freedom or technology or kind of political system to destroy our Christianity, & I don't know who is responsible here, people or priests or churches???

Are you following faith with blind mind???
- I believe most people do that, & most them, "OK, I have faith, why should I read Bible, I'm enough, that's it", do you think Jesus taught us to be blind? & how can you have faith without knowledge about everything in Bible? how can you believe without knowing Bible?


The horrible thing when we think that religion should be second or margin matter in our life, While we are racing to know the bad stuff & silly one in our daily life.

Read more in this link:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/39397251/ns/us_news-life/

Sad Day.

Yesterday, was a sad day for me,  a memorial day about my aunt, we call it 40, because it is 40 days after person's death date. We went to church for a special mass on her soul, then we went to visit her grave, there was alot of emotions & tears.


For me, I wanted not to cry, because I believe; this is our end at all, no one will live forever & as a believer this is GOD's willing & we should accept it. But, really I couldn't imprison my tears, I just let them go out, especially when the priest was hymning a prayer's words on her soul, I felt that my heart wanted to cry not just only my eyes!

Then after visiting her grave, on the old church, I did some tour on other graves, I looked around me & saw there were no enough places, each grave is too close to the next one, I amazed how many people were died through these years,Christians in Iraq becomes like a hard currency!

So, I was trying to read about those dead people & some of graves were very old, even I can't read their names & pictures were deleted because of the weather, & no one really care about them, clean them or renew the names, like bold it.

There isn't any green area, or some trees or flowers, the cemetery needs some care, it is the only thing that we can do to respect our deads, it is just desert with a poor gard's family live there, nothing more.

It was a big day by all meanings, we welcomed people who wanted to comfort & console us at church's hall.

Most of those who came to console us having some special one who passed away by terrorist or illness like cancer which became very common here just like flu; most them having their own story to tell, I was thinking if we were going to write a book about Christians in Iraq after 2003 we will never complete it or reach the end, because of how much stories we have from those families, like a story of a family lost her only son in 2005 by terrorist, they wanted to kidnap him while he was driving his car in substreet but he resisted them, he pulled their mask, they killed him right away, by lunging him a knife through his body & cut off his head!!! (he was civil engineer got master degree & engaged to get marry), his mother was barely can walk just to share others sadness or calamity, many like her do that to relieve their selves & feelings.

This is just one story of thousands of Christian's families stories in Iraq, we don't hate the other, we don't hurt the other, we don't say bad things to other, we are as always PEACE MAKER as Jesus taught us to be, we accept the other, we don't cross our lines, we don't curse in our prayers, we love all people in whole the world even the bad people, we pray for all, we forgive to those how hurt us we don't get revenge by sword, we don't kill by religion name, we don't satisfy one's thirst for revenge.

We believed in humanity for everyone, to anyone in this world (women, men, child, old people, good/bad, any ethnic, any belief) has their own rights to pray, to practice their religion in their own way without fears, without afraid of going to thier holy places to worship GOD. without thinking to be killed by others!

Can others take our lives, but not our values, not our virtue, not our freedom.
          " الحقوق تنتزع ولاتؤخذ  "
" Rights can be pulled out but it can't be taken"

Reality Of Education.

It is autum & schools will start next week & students preparing for the new studying year, from the uniform clothes to notebook & sticker's names & their families get busy with them buying school's bags, pencils...ect, starting to be ready for their studying year. but, does schools ready to welcome our students?

Recently in Iraq, we are getting to see schools from muds!!! Yes, from muds, you may not believe me, but in country of oil, we have schools from muds not only that but even from straw too!!!
 

A school from straw in Al'amara (South of Iraq)!

What is going on with our ministery of education? Are our kids responsible for other's mistakes??? adult's mistakes?? or we don't have enough money to build new schools?

Teacher ringing the bell.

Our students need a healthy building to study in? simple schools for our students just simple one, we don't ask for fancy building just rooms with ceiling with good utilities, that will be enough, aren't they deserve that?

Then, why there are many students in one classroom like 30student? & you can see from pictures, students studying on the ground, no enough chairs for them while Iraq spending millions of dollars every year, where it goes??

Can anyone tell me how they will study in winter inside muds schools??


Doesn't that causes diseases & illness between students? 36 student in one classroom??

Another problem with schools's distribution, in some area like rural ,there are few numbers of schools & some are far away from student's houses.

In another part, there are new schools which closed , because the number of teachers is very low can't coverage the schools, it is a big messy in Iraq with a chain problems related to education's system.

If we need to spread education in Iraq & the new technology first we should offer schools for those kids.

Then solving that issue will lead to solve this one "streets's children" , I'm sure there are many of those kids out of schools in every city in Iraq maybe except Kurdestan,this phenomenon becoming a prevalent view in every corner in the streets or at traffics, like beggar asking for money or selling chewing gum or some tissues in summer & winter BUT their places should be at schools & at least get the high school certificate, by this we can raise our education's level & erased illiterate between people.

Women In First Place.

I found this article is interesting about women in U.S. & how women in the Generation Y (22-30 yrs old) are making 8% more salary than men on average in 47 of 50 states.

Someone had asked me this question:

Do you think that is even possible in Middle-East???

Or at least let our women get jobs first then make salary more than men!
This link shows how women have rights in west, & not just talks or good speeches but, getting it real.

We have potential power & abilities & we can't make it real, to where our cultures & people's education will lead us???

By the way, the big number of non -educated people is in middle east, Why? & most of them are females,Why?

Read more in this link :
http://lifeinc.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2010/09/01/5024412-gen-y-women-outearning-their-peers

I Have Something To Say!

"Always tell what you feel & do what you think"

                                                                          
I have been at house for 5 days! , It was Muslim's Eid ( Happy Eid ) & I didn't go for shopping for more than 1 month & half ! , I feel like I'm living in another planet!
But, the good thing is, I have some work to do, so it keeps me busy most of the time which is good since we don't have any place to spend our time.

I woke up today with many thoughts & concepts about life in my head, I just dreamed about my aunt but, really I don't know if that related to my dream or not; some of these concepts are:

-What should I do to feel better about any bad events that I had lived or seen?

-What is the meaning of new life? forgetting the past, deleting it or just fix the mistakes of current moments?

-What is our messages as human being to the world?
-Do you think our people in all the world acting their humanity in best way? if they do then why we have poverty, wars, all kind of crimes & extortion for human rights & women rights?

I think I'm reaching to point, to find answers about everything even those tiny small silly things!
But, why? shouldn't I enjoy life & live to the fullest moment without worrying about this & that?
Does that mean I should live with blind mind?

Am I having psychological warfare with  my thoughts & concepts & I don't know???

Between Lines...

 Last post, had an impact on me, the reality of our women's life & thier destiny...

Can women like 4 or 5 women living together supporting each other here alone in same house for example?

Women here lives with their parents till they get married, it is very different than west, in west women can live alone, even one of them lives in her apartment from 18 years old as we know.

But do you think western way support women & their future? Or in east women are taking action towards their parents even if they are not married, spending their life to help their parents.

I don't try to say this is better than that. but, let's discuss this issue it's sort of mixing thoughts, ideologies; getting outside home for women mean new life, new page in her life; Do you think women with open freedom can lose their personal respecting?

Or that related to her own morals & what she wants as a woman?

Or women should be controlled by men & women obeyed them?

The interesting thing there are no women living alone here I don't know in other middle east countries, because if they do, Our society & culture will never mercy them, will attack their reputation though they have great morals as we say here "people will talk"!!!


Sometimes, I feel people's power more than religion's & moral's power, but people will talk even if you are angel,Why they have such a strong control into our lives?

Or we should be behind walls because of who we are; eastern women?
Do you think western women are more independence than eastern women?

Then, is it the right way to live alone without family? without parents? without someone shows you the right direction in your life or at least give you some advises?

My thoughts are leading me to another question, do we need to live alone to learn how to be individual & independence women, deciding, choosing & standing in front of the walls not behind them?

We don't want to live as a shadow because of culture barriers, I think many many women here live like that behind the wall, maybe it's the fear or men's power or weakness in their personality.

I must admit, It will take a long time to get our rights & it needs great efforts but, if we don't help ourselves no one will help us!

Iraqi Women With Iraq's Decades Of Conflict!

I read an article about Iraqi women over 30s not married & how Iraq's war & conflicts had a great impact on women & their future, their own life, as I mentioned before about culture; how captured women's spaces, & there relationships outside house if there is a relationship really, & how the culture is "narrow minded" by all means, I'm not saying that from my point of view only, but this is all women's point of view even men know this fact, how she can married if she didn't meet someone? Or first  is there someone so she can meet & marry him?

Well, obviously there are many reasons beyond  that, family, men, money, Iraq's situation besides traditions...
You can read more in this link:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/39023130/ns/world_news-mideastn_africa/

My Dream Island...

It is 12:19 am here, in Iraq & I really tired & barely can open my eyes after a long day, sunny & warm day just like every day in this burning summer, we have generator power now, I feel bored today..

Sometimes, I just want to live in island a way from  whole world, a way from here, people, horrible pictures, death stories, just forgetting everything in moments, get lost in my dreams, finding peace in my fantasy world & no one will ask about my passport, I'm travelling through my thoughts, searching for white pages to draw my dreams on...picturing some beautiful images in my mind, but then it will not be for more than 10 minutes or so,I turn around me & listen to the noise that coming from outside by police's cars riding fast & shouting "Staying a way from the road!!!", my beautiful pictures fell & disappeared & here I'm, in the same position!

Happiness for some people is to get money, or get new things, buying new stuff, changing their living place to bigger one, or having jobs or get married but, for Iraqis to have some peace;  when they put their heads on their pillows & fall asleep not to worry about tomorrow, or what will happen? It will get better or worse?

Baghdad, Adjured For Bright Morning!

n past when we decided to spend summer vacation, we usually as a members of small family, voted to go to Baghdad because; it is the Capital most beautiful place in Iraq has electricity 24 hours, has some good places that we had liked to go,That was in Saddam's regime, Iraq was limited by Baghdad & his own city only (Tikret); the rest Iraqi cities were neglected;  then after 2003 we waited to breathe the freedom, for new honest Iraqis leaders to rebuild the new Iraq, new future, new life, waited for a new chapter for our country, but we faced many problems , terrorism is on the head of this list, absence of rules & laws, buildings arson, water pipes damaged, electricity wires were burning, we were drowning into deep darkness, then we had the first election in 2005, & we kept dealing with same issues, then the second election in 2010 & what has done throw these 7 years, did they fix our power issue? did they fix our water issue? did they solve the security issue? those who are unemployed? did they solved the medical system? did they fix accommodation for poor people?

Do you know there is a quarter in Baghdad called (Hey Al-Tank), where houses made by tins plates & people lived in, imagine how can they live there in winter & summer???
Is this new Baghdad?
What about the garbage everywhere, did they fix it???

Kids playing with garbage!

Do you know how we get water in our house, not just by water's motor only but we use a pump too to get water & I believe most Iraqi families have it to get water, is this new facilitation for Iraqis???
We are in 2010 but living in 1940!

According to Kurdistan region (north of Iraq) has grown a lot since 1991 when they separated & has their independence from Baghdad control, of course they suffered, had issues between tow biggest parties, their was a civil war inside, but at the end they realized that will not help them to live a good life or solve their issues, with each other after Saddam’s attacking them in many differences crimes one of them was Halabja . They started to take actions, responsibilities of their own lands, spend money to develop their services, utilities, dealing with foreign companies, for rebuilding & investments, achieved such good  projects. 

One of the most popular mall in Erbil.

 I can tell Erbil is growing fast especially those last 5 years, & with new technology with higher specifications through world, you can see different race from all people, European, middle east & Arab people too, Erbil now opened to the world & we don’t forget there are many NGO  &  UN offices , all that helps it to be in the first place in my opinion.

Erbil is part of Iraq where Baghdad is but, when I go to Erbil, the first words went out from my mouth “Wow, we must be somewhere else not in Iraq”!!!

Not just  new buildings that amazed me only but, people who lived their, feeling responsible about Erbil's beauty & how they followed rules & working together to get it better & better...

Erbil airport.

The sense of new Architectural buildings & Urban-design, street's paved & you can see alot of green areas, clean streets,where is that in Baghdad? We see garbage everywhere, not just Baghdad, other cities too.  7 years after 2003 & billions of US and Iraqi dollars spent and no "visible improvement" at least the basic one like electricity & water issues, adding it the education issues, cultural one & the biggest one security problem. & I think there is a huge gap inside our security system, why they couldn’t protect these structures from terrorism?
The fundamental security system in our government is suffering & should heals this leak .

So, if we are comparing Erbil with Baghdad, Yes we had a damaged war that destroyed Baghdad’s landmark & elevation, but then what? Should we stop on that & be sorry for what happen? What happen is happened, we can’t just sit & feel sorrow to what happened!

Last event in Al-Rashed street in Baghdad.

Erbil & Baghdad now, two different pictures in same country. Very different faces about Iraq, one has developed very fast, expanded with new projects & one is laying down under corruption & politicians chairs fighting. 

Who should blame about that? people who went to give their votes for those leaders?? Or blame leaders for their lies on us?? Or blame US. government for this war? Or blame Saddam in his grave about what we gained from his political system & how he drawn Iraq to this situation? & till when we will keep blame this or that?

We should move on & fix our issues, by ourselves first,& stop blaming that will not fix water or power issues, will not keep us safe, we should really get plans, educated people by media, T.V, NGO & volunteers.
Government should get busy, leaders should work together forgetting their inner issues, think about what people need.

But, who will listen? Do they really care & listen to the people??? Do they see where is Baghdad now???
I wounder till when we will see Baghdad raised again!

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Notice: I changed the title from "Baghdad, Where Are You?" to "Baghdad, Adjured For Bright Morning!"

Culture Or New Future?

It is 1st of September & I got sad, I feel depressed, my destiny is still unknown, my future unclear though I'm drawing smile on my face, you will ask why? I feel we are living same scenario everyday; today same as yesterday, nothing better, no future, no working on real steps, we are living in torture, trying to help others but no one really help us back, we are dying in our own place & some says why you are thinking of leaving? what will you find in other countries? you will have no jobs there, culture will be different, life & people be different too than here, you are here better than there , at least it is your own country!

I have heard such these things over & over & I want to tell those who are thinking like that, what is the benefit from being here without getting our rights, our right to choose?
What is the benefit from living with people acting like wolves?
What is the benefit from living here & actually I don't feel I belong here?why? because I don't have rights to select what I want? what future I want? what dreams I want to achieve?
What is the benefit of being here with no human rights? no women rights?
Where is our REAL life? what have done to be just like others in their countries?

They think it will be hard there so, Isn't it hard here? with our worries, bombing cars, killing & kidnapping people?

I believe humans have rights & this is who I am first and I am Iraqi second.

We should treat other people by humanity in first place.

I respect what others believe, their cultures, societies but I will take what is good for my believes & traditions.

This is what they call to be "open minded", always we live in close boxes never accept others, even don't listen to them, I learned to "Think outside the box!".

I'm tired of living in fears, fears from tomorrow, from others re-actions on this & that. I'm tired of living in fear's tornado, killing me, killing my personalty, limiting my abilities, capturing my plans to go forward.
We are raised to do something in our life, give a good message, It is a crime to be in prison; it is a self prison, very hard to explain, but; it is inside me, if it was a man I would fight him, but it's me!

 I am fighting with me?? challenge myself??

We are not born to be weak, GOD isn't weak to create us weak too, he gave us brain to think, to choose.
So, why I feel that way? Is it the guilty feeling? Or what?

Marriage & Gold...

As an eastern culture, most of us like to have some pieces of gold, but in marriage it is another story. Some families still asking for too much gold from the groom or groom’s family like a main condition to marry their daughter, some say this is common to save their daughter’s future if husband abounded her, or died, they think it will keep her save, but till when?

Here is the issue, in past in general women were staying at home, and raising children, cooking, cleaning & all housework stuff, these old families were thinking like that way, because their daughters had no jobs, but world has changed & women got to know they have rights secured their future before & after marriage, gold can’t be like “life insurance” & here is the problem in our societies, living without insurance!

In Islam, gold for women like her shelter when things get worse, it is her own money even if she is working or not, I know many Muslims women asking for a good amount of gold before marriage from their husband. In Christians families to be fear some of these families are asking for too much gold & other contenting what groom’s will pay for gold, his ability how much gold could buy for his bride.

I think, recently this gold issue becoming an obstacle for those who wants to settle down & marry, because of bride’s families conditions according to gold & by the way; isn’t just gold condition, some families asking for house not apartment or car for their daughter.

And we should think about those poor families, who they can’t pay for high prices things like gold.

It is Okay to have gold, but too much of it will be risky too; people may know about it & many cases happened, they got to the house killed wife, stole gold because they watched the woman when she was wearing her gold outside house.

Daily Doldrums.

Day amid the humdrum of the usual workday a friend came to my office and we visited. She is a single mother of three, having lost her husband to the violent aftermath of the US invasion. Don't get me wrong, I don't know anyone who isn't happy that Saddam is gone but there was a lot of terror and murder and destruction in the years afterwards that took many, many lives. Yes, I don't know anyone who wishes Saddam was still in power. But I also don't know anyone who hasn't felt the loss of loved ones and heart wrenching tragedy.

So we chatted for a while, mostly about how boring life in Iraq is. As I've written before, there's a total lack of entertainment and the difficulties women face in just going out for lunch together. So I'm considering a second job for lack of anything else to do. I'm very fortunate that in my field I can find work, as many in Iraq can't. All these projects, all the millions of dollars, both American and Iraqi, and we can't seem to find enough work for everyone. Where is all that money going? Certainly not to fix our electrical system-we're lucky to get 6 hours a day, and that's sporadic, maybe fifteen minutes here, maybe an hour there. How do you plan a life around that?

Iraq has known war after war after war. Before Saddam we couldn't speak out, had no voice, then with Saddam we had war with Iran, with Kuwait, then the US. I've known war my whole life. After 2003 we had such high hopes for change, for freedom, for rebuilding Iraq after Saddam and war and the sanctions destroyed her, and now we have a voice, we can speak out against the government, but what good does it do? Where are the great benefits of democracy, of freedom? Some say blame the Americans, but even if they're to blame, don't we, Iraqis, ultimately own Iraq? America didn't take over forever, they're leaving, will fully leave next year if we so choose. So who is responsible for Iraq, in the end? We are. And we are not doing a very good job. We can't even get our government to work. Elections were back in March and we still don't have a functioning government.

As anyone in the Middle East knows, bureaucracy is the real king, and not having a government in place doesn't let the king do his job. Nothing is getting done, no power, water problems, no jobs, our education system is still in the 1980's. America threw money at us and the greedy and corrupt among us just took it, put it in their bank accounts in Switzerland. Are these the Iraqis we want leading us into the future? Where are the good Iraqi leaders? Are there any left? So many decent, intelligent people fled with the war and violence. Who is left who can lead us to victory?

So another boring day in Iraq, awaiting change. They tell me I have a voice, but I can't do anything with it. Some say it will take a generation, if not two to get Iraq rebuilt, modernized. I think they're probably right.

But that doesn't mean I want to wait for it.

Iraqis worries.

I really like these pictures; they are transferring our worries & issues with sarcasm way...

Women situation in Iraq.

Electricity crisis!

Salary & job!

Payment at end of the month!!!

Rebuilding:(

Poverty & high prices!

I think pictures talk enough about our issues...

Farewell…

To my beloved aunt.


To woman who sacrificed her own self to the end…
To woman who fought till end against illness to the last moments…
To woman who said goodbye before leaving us & this life…
To woman who wasn’t happy in her life because of traditions & culture…
To woman who supported her family by her own job…
To woman who never tasted happy moments in her life she was a victim of society, painful, sadness, depression…


You lived with pain on this earth, I know you are getting rest now…but, I will miss you my aunt, not just me, all of us, I know you weren’t happy here, you suffered, you were living in sadness, I can’t delete your last pictures when you were dying…my heart aches at that time & now, I wish that I did something more to help you to heal you, it is very hard to see you in that bed laying down with your hard breathe waiting to go on a trip; a trip that took you away, didn’t wait & we couldn't do something to bring you back to us, what a loss!!!

I can’t stop my tears, but I promise you that I will always remember you; when you were talking, walking, smiling with few moments, when you were asking about me, when you were…

You always said “woman is wronged here” you couldn’t marry; you gave your life to others, you were the one who took care of very small tiny things, you were responsible to the end, you were…

It is early you left us, but I know you want to rest from this life, you want some peace, some condolence…

I can still smell you my aunt, your scent everywhere in your house & here in my mind, your clothes, your touches…

Your dreams gone with you too, your planning, your wishes…

I love you my aunt, we all love you, I’m thinking of you now, and what are you doing? How is your new place? No one will take your rights there…

Do you know there is a huge emptiness in your house now? Your bed & room? Every corner in that house is crying after you…

I wish you can hear me now, I will rise from where you stop, I will take your dreams & added to mine, I will fight for every woman rights, I will support what you couldn’t support, I will be happy for you, I will live for you, I will stand & talk, I will say my thoughts, I will speak to the end, I will think in my mind & heart, I will transfer my feelings & express myself, I will say “NO” when it needs to say it, I will remember when you put other happiness in front of your happiness...

She passed away on 8/17/2010.

Goodbye my aunt; Jesus mercy your soul &I know a fact that we will meet someday…

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The Child Bride & the Devil!

Loosing bodily part & getting new future.

After aggressive life, merciless, animal cruel treatment towards this young woman by her husband who is one of Taliban fighter, she was a victim of her father’s mistake because he killed one of Taliban fighter. It was kind of liquidation! & what was the price? Was this young woman married to such a terrorism criminal man belongs to Taliban groups who had beat her then cut her nose & her ears!!!! WHY???

-What kind of husband???

-Is he a human???

-Do you think; this is the good way to manage our life in that kind of human behavior & treat our women by this way???

It is tragedy by all means, it is humanity war; war against women in meddle-east...

Below; You can read more about this story of the worst horrible treatment against women in Afghanistan!

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/05/world/asia/05afghan.html?_r=2

Can Religion Be Against Woman?

Do you think religion would help women or against them & their rights?

But, why religion would be against women’s rights?

Religion should be mercy & kindness, support & help women & those who believed in extremism religious & some of close-minded brutal barbaric people are against GOD’s message of humanity, the essential of humanity & mercy with women.

Women are human, equal to men & I want to ask this question to everyone, is there any measurements would let man be better than woman?

Is there any low for man allows him to be preferable more than woman?
Isn’t the time to change this theory about women?

Looking to our surroundings in east & especially in (Iraq) women are living in big prison, or big empty box.
Yes, empty box, it is truth, I have been asking many women this: after your work time, do you have any places to go or do you like to go somewhere but you can’t go?

All of them told me” where we can go? There are no places we can go & spend some time & have fun; we can’t go alone or with our girl friends to anywhere though if there are places”

At the end a woman who is 49 years old told me “do you believe that I can’t go alone to market or anywhere & should take my one of my sisters with me & I’m in this age???”

& she added “even if someone wanted to marry me I should take my brothers & sisters opinions & should they agreed then me???”...WOW!!! What can I say? & by the way, she is employee…

The interesting thing she said “If I can turn the time back, & go back to my youth time, I would have changed many things in me like, my decisions in my personal life but, it is too late now… too late!”

& she said with anger” we were under pressure of men’s controls (brothers) & till now we are at their mercy”

I couldn’t say something to comfort her, because obviously there was nothing to say, she is living that tragedy for years, she is a victim of culture, traditions & gossip environment not just her, many likes her are living same way.

I don’t want to be pessimistic, but this is our reality; this is facts & we can’t hid it to pretend everything is fine, no we aren’t fine, this is not fine at all, if we have better & enough education, open conversations about women issues, our women would have better life, responsible decisions about what they want, taking as models of successful nation throughout the world.